5 Reasons your child’s behaviour might feel more challenging right now and what could help

How are you finding your child’s behaviour at the moment?

This time of year can bring an increase in behaviour which feels challenging. Whilst we’re all supposed to be jolly, happy families, the odds are behind the scenes you may find everyone is struggling more than usual and consequently there’s a lot more short fuses, conflict and stress!

It’s easy to end up wondering if your child has turned into a complete nighmare or you’ve epically failed as a parent. In truth it’s neither. This is a full on time of year and at this point everything tends to slip!

Sometimes there are simple explanations for why they are struggling which can be easy to overlook. Here’s 5 reasons why your child’s behaviour feels extra challenging right now and some ideas of what might help.

You’ll already know them, but I know I often find a reminder really helpful, especially when I’m feeling frazzled!

They're overtired.  They've been busy since September and now it's dark, cold and there are lots of extra activities  on and probably a few late nights too.
2. Overstimulation.  bright lights, different noises,school events, extra activities and lots of change of routine all take their toll. Sometimes even if it's fun it becomes a bit overwhelming.
3.  Less Outdoor time.  Less fresh arid, opportunities to "let of steam" or calm in nature can take their toll.  Dark nights and winter weather don't help either.
4. More junk food.  Food can affect mood, sleep, nd lots more.  This time of year often involves a less balanced diet which might also have an impact on your child.
5. Parental stress. You may be overstretched and overtired which makde it harder to find the extra patience to respond to your child calmly so conflict escalates quicker.

So what can you do? Here’s a few simple, but effective things which can help dial down the angst.

What can help:
Be kind to yourself - it's a busy time
Adapt your expectations
Plan in quieter, calmer times
Get outdoors more
Say "no" to some invitations
Get an early night when you can
Stay connected to the people who matter most - even 10 mins of play and fun together can help
Ask others to share the load

Remember small steps add up to significant change.

Have a great Christmas!

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If you know that this is more than just a season and you need to find some ways forward for your family then perhaps it’s time to take action and invest in some space to step back and review the bigger picture and what might help. You can follow the link to book a free initial consultation

Julie is smiling and leaning on a barrier at Gloucester Quays

Julie is an ICF accredited coach who offers vital thinking space to busy parents. She’s passionate about children growing up experiencing acceptance, belonging and connection. Her background includes working with young people in education, as a foster carer and being a mum. She is very experienced in the additional challenges some young people experience including SEN, neurodivergence and trauma

You can find out more about her work at www.optimumparentandfamily.co.uk

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